Holiday in Goa

Today I watched the movie ‘Outsourcing” and liked it. Looking at India from the perspective of an American, it does a good job. An interesting part of the movie is the relationship between the Indian Future Assistant Manager and the American and she tells him “he is her holiday in Goa”. For her he is her one chance to escape, even if only for a few months, from the detailed plans laid out before her for her future by her family. This is a real scenario in India now, girls having sexual affairs with someone they like and would love to have a life with, then quietly giving it all up to fall in line with their parents wishes, marrying someone from their caste, religion, community and background, knowing fully well they will never again know the fun and excitement of their previous life.
I wonder if the men know of these things and do they still come to the marriage bed thinking their wives’ are virgins. Surely they know. A lot of women in India still know only one man, their husband sexually, but that is changing and what is more, the guilt that used to be associated with premarital sex among women is almost totally gone. Well, men always had some sort of experience with premarital sex and that was accepted but it is still a taboo for women at least officially.